Masochist me/Sex training
From Create Your Own Story
"I see lots of faces here. I have a few things I need to make sure you are aware of. Any time between now and the second class, you can withdraw and receive a full refund for the costs of the class."
I thought that was a little strange. Why would people do that?
"Now, let me explain what this class is for. Here, you will learn about sexual techniques, and how to please your partner. Please understand, this class is only for male female relationships. I am not qualified, and will not teach, female female or male male techniques. So, if you are here for either of these, please feel free to leave now. Or you can stay, so you will not be made to feel uncomfortable. To help ensure that no one is make uncomfortable, I ask you all to lay your heads on your desk."
It was strange, like I was back in grade school or something.
"Anyone who would like to leave may do so now." I heard a couple, or some, people get up and the door open. After a couple more minutes, the instructor continued. "Okay, you may raise your heads again."
I did, and noticed that only a couple of people had left.
"So, for those who remain, please note the second issue. This will be a hands on class. While many of the things will be discussion, evaluation through film or guests coming in to demonstrate, you will also be required to participate. You will not need to do anything that you are uncomfortable with, but for those of you who are in a relationship, I stress that it is important to either participate in this class with your partner," I had already spotted one of those, holding hands as they sat next to each other, "or that your partner is aware of this class, and that you will be learning about and experimenting with different sexual techniques. This will mean that you will be partnered with someone of the opposite gender, and engage in sexual activities with that partner." He gave each of us a hard look after stating this. "Also, you will be doing this in front of the class." He waited a moment to let that sink in, then continued. "Again, I ask everyone to put their heads on their desk." He waited until everyone had complied, then stated, as before, "Anyone who is not comfortable with having sexual contact with your partner during the context of this course, please feel free to leave now." A few more sounds of people standing up, walking out.
"You may look up again." We all raised our heads. About one third of the class had left now.
"Now, you have all taken your required medical exam and signed the needed waiver. Just remember, you will be participating in intimate contact. All protections will be observed. This means condoms are not optional. If you are allergic to latex, please make sure to inform me if you failed to note it on the enrollment form. You may do so privately or through email. Please also remember to observe the confidentiality agreement you signed prior to taking this class. You will be held to it. If you violate your fellow student's privacy, we will evaluate our options for litigation. If you still want to take this class, but are truly not willing to actively participate in any hands on learning, then you will not be forced. I just want to make sure we are clear about this class so it does not cause issues with your personal lives, relationships, or anything else."
He again looked everyone in the eye, asked for another round of heads down. This time, I didn't hear anyone getting up to leave.
"Now, introductions will take place next week, once those who still wish to withdraw from the class are able to. For today, we will simply go over some aspects of human anatomy."
With that, he started with the basics.
The female reproductive system, including the vulva, the external part. The vulva included the mons pubis, pudendal cleft, labia majora, labia minora, Bartholin's glands, clitoris and vaginal opening.
The internal parts of the female reproductive system, including the the vaginal canal, cervix, uterus, fallopian tubes, and ovaries.
The male reproductive system, including the penis and scrotum. The internal parts, including the epididymis, vas deferens that carries sperm to the prostatic ducts, and the three glands, the seminal vesicles, the prostate gland, and the bulbourethral glands.
By the end, it felt more medical than sexual. True, there were many pictures shown, with different parts pointed to, highlighted, and discussed. There was both the medical cutaway charts and pictures of real men and women's sexual organs.
We discussed the various changes the body went through during arousal.
Phase 1: Excitement
- For men: The penis starts becoming erect. The man's nipples may also become erect.
- For women: Vaginal lubrication begins. The vagina expands and lengthens. The outer lips, inner lips, clitoris and sometimes breasts begin to swell.
- For both: Heart rate, blood pressure and breathing are all accelerated.
Phase 2: Plateau
- For men: The testes are drawn up into the scrotum. The penis becomes fully erect.
- For women: The vaginal lips become puffier. The tissues of the walls of the outer third of the vagina swell with blood, and the opening to the vagina narrows. The clitoris disappears into its hood. The inner labia changes color. For women who've never had children, the lips turn from pink to bright red. In women who've had children, the color turns from bright red to deep purple.
- For both: Breathing and pulse rates quicken. A "sex flush" may appear on the stomach, chest, shoulders, neck or face. Muscles tense in the thighs, hips, hands and buttocks, and spasms may begin.
Phase 3: Orgasm
- For men: First, seminal fluid collects in the urethral bulb. This is when a man may have the sensation that orgasm is certain, or "ejaculatory inevitability." Next, semen is ejaculated from the penis. Contractions occur in the penis during the orgasmic phase.
- For women: The first third of the vaginal walls contract rhythmically every eight-tenths of a second. The number and intensity of the contractions vary depending on the individual orgasm. The muscles of the uterus also contract barely noticeably.
- For both: Breathing, pulse rate and blood pressure continue to rise. Muscle tension and blood-vessel engorgement reach a peak. Sometimes orgasm comes with a grasping-type muscular reflex of the hands and feet.
Phase 4: Resolution
- For men: The penis returns to its normal flaccid state. There is usually a refractory period, where it's impossible to orgasm again until a certain amount of time has passed. The amount of time varies among men by age, physical fitness and other factors.
- For women: The uterus and clitoris return to their normal positions. Some women may be able to respond to additional stimulation with additional orgasms.
- For both: Swelling recedes, any sex flush disappears, and there is a general relaxation of muscle tension.
While the class seemed to promise some interesting knowledge later, this first class made sex seem sort of...boring...aside from a few videos. But even those seemed rather...clinical.
It was interesting though to see the different students reactions. For their willingness to take this class, some reactions were rather childlike, while others were rather...something. Even I found myself blushing time to time though, so I couldn't say much.
The instructor ended the class with a reminder that students may withdraw before the second class and get a full refund.
The next class, only about one third of the students were left. That left about thirteen of us. Fortunately, there were exactly the same amount of females and males in the class, at least if you included the teacher.
"Okay everyone. It is good to see those of you that chose to remain. Today, we will start getting to know each other. As I read your name, please stand up and tell the class a little about you and why you are here. Also, please tell us if you are here with a partner and point out your partner." With that, he started reading each person's name. Only their first names though.
The reasons varied.
There were four couples in the class, and their reason was pretty straightforward, with a twist with one couple.
"We would just like to know how to make each other happier in bed," was pretty much the common reason. The one couple though, instead of focusing on that, started listing everything their partner wouldn't do, and what they hoped the partner would learn in the class.
Right in front of our eyes, they devolved completely into a full blown argument. The teacher stepped in.
"Hello, Terry, Joann. Please be quiet for a minute." I could see them fuming slightly, being interrupted, but holding their tongue.
"Okay, let me start by saying that this is a sexual training class, not a relationship management class. If your sex life is the cause of your dysfunction, then this may help. However, it almost sounds like your problems stem from other issues. You may stay if you want, but I think you really need to sit back and evaluate your relationship, to see if this is the proper place for you to be, or if you should instead focus on marriage counseling."
With that, he had us all sit down in a circle. "First, sex is an important part of a relationship. For a healthy relationship, you need to have a healthy sex life. We have sex for many reasons. For pure physical gratification. For intimacy. For strengthening of bonds. This is when we are most vulnerable, and surrendering out bodies to our partners. It is an exercise in trust. However, sex by itself cannot sustain a relationship. If you do not trust your partner, how willing are you to make yourself vulnerable to them? If you are not connecting on other levels, how can you feel the attraction to be willing to engage in love together? It may work, replacing love for sex, for a short time. But a relationship is built on more than pure lust."
He went on, and it rolled over me. I had never really been in a long term relationship. Most of my relationships have been exactly that: sexual. And then, not really loving, or gentle. They had been rough, and raw, and pure, animal lust. I thought about it, and realized maybe what he was saying was that I didn't have it in me to be in a relationship. After all, how could someone like me, who asked to be hurt, who enjoyed the painful side of sex, find someone they would want to be with for the rest of their life? It was not like I did it intentionally, and not like my partners were doing something I didn't want them to, but how could you get close to someone like that?
Fortunately, I wasn't here for that, so it didn't really matter.
He finally finished. The couple seemed to actually be looking at each other, whatever he said to them making them think.
The next person called gave their name, and explained she was single, and that her last boyfriend was less than fulfilling in that department. She was actually more interested in knowing how a man could please her, to see if there was something more that could be done with the next boyfriend. And, she wanted to be a better lover for that next boyfriend, when he came along.
The teacher called on me. Still focused on what he said, and what that meant for me and a real relationship, I didn't really pay much attention as I gave my answer.
"Hello. I just got a job as an escort, and would like to better understand how to sexually pleasure a man." I didn't even register what I had said until I heard the gasps from some of the other women in the class. I stopped talking, and searched my brain for what I had just told them.
Once realization hit me, that I had basically told them I was here to learn how to have sex as a job, I felt my skin flush. Standing there, in front of all those judgmental eyes, judging me for wanting to know how to be better at sex for money, I knew I had suddenly turned bright red. While one or two women looked at me with questions, the others looked at me aghast. Even a couple of the men did, including the teacher. I was absolutely mortified. I wanted to sink into the ground right then and there. Some of the other guys though looked at me with...intrigue, rather than disgust or revulsion. My mind went on overdrive in my humiliation, and I could feel my body responding. I could feel the sexual tension building as I stood there. Humiliation always sparked that in me. Maybe part of the same section of my brain that enjoyed paid. The triggering of the fight or flight reflex, the sudden adrenaline rush. Whatever it was, I found myself completely turned on as my eyes drifted to the ground, unable to look them in the eyes.
Finally, the teacher regained his composure. "That's..." he stumbled, trying to find the words, "interesting." is what he ended with before going to the next name, trying to break the awkward silence.
I stood there mortified, halfway wishing I had kept my mind where it should have been. The heat radiating between my legs, the crimson hue to my skin that had started as embarrassment, yet turned into a sexual flush, only made it halfway.
I sat back down, feeling like everyone would know how wet I was suddenly between my legs. The fact that there was no way they could didn't make the feeling that they did anyways go away.
